double jeopardy
Apr. 13th, 2005 11:16 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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Yesterday became a sorrowful evening, after hearing that an lj-friend![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
musewoozle had passed away... I tried and tried to hunt around for hours, for every possible reason I could find to disprove it, but ultimately it seemed to be true.. -_-
Then the double-whammy came tonight, discovering that apparently LiveJournal has a discomforting policy in place, wherein they somehow partially disconnect the friends-listing of someone that dies :<
I.E.: You still show up in their friend's list, and they still show up in yours (this is good and true) ..... but, somehow (on your own page) they stop showing up as a mutual friend.... as if someone stops being a friend once they die???
I tested this by going to several other people's pages who also are mutual friends of the dear departed (austin_dern and sebkha), and, I also went to another friend's page (patchoblack) who is a mutual friend of someone else I didn't know (who died also - stars_pyre), and yup, same thing happens: patchy and he are mutual friends, but on patchy's page, it does not reflect this any more... :<
Once LJ discovers they are no longer with us, whomp!, somehow they only have half-friends anymore. >:| They will always list you as a friend on their user info page, but no longer will it show that they befriend you on your user info page.
Doesn't this sound just a bit unreal, untrue and even twisted?
It sure seems like adding insult to injury... like stirring salt in the wound... Your friend has died, and then LJ takes another step further to break yet one more connection you share with someone for whom you still care. -_-
One (maybe) good thing, is that perhaps LJ gives them a permanent account some time after they have passed on. Patchy's friend is sort of a tragic urban legend, and I see that LJ gave them a permanent account after all this time. Hopefully my friend will never have to die here too.
As long as their family wants it that way, I guess. I hope.
Still, it doesn't quite make sense to me, and seems unnecessary, that they would implement a sort of technical disconnection like this... when someone you care about still lives on, in memory... :/
may you rest in peace, woozle.
*offers a final wing hug*.
Yesterday became a sorrowful evening, after hearing that an lj-friend
musewoozle had passed away... I tried and tried to hunt around for hours, for every possible reason I could find to disprove it, but ultimately it seemed to be true.. -_-Then the double-whammy came tonight, discovering that apparently LiveJournal has a discomforting policy in place, wherein they somehow partially disconnect the friends-listing of someone that dies :<
I.E.: You still show up in their friend's list, and they still show up in yours (this is good and true) ..... but, somehow (on your own page) they stop showing up as a mutual friend.... as if someone stops being a friend once they die???
I tested this by going to several other people's pages who also are mutual friends of the dear departed (austin_dern and sebkha), and, I also went to another friend's page (patchoblack) who is a mutual friend of someone else I didn't know (who died also - stars_pyre), and yup, same thing happens: patchy and he are mutual friends, but on patchy's page, it does not reflect this any more... :<
Once LJ discovers they are no longer with us, whomp!, somehow they only have half-friends anymore. >:| They will always list you as a friend on their user info page, but no longer will it show that they befriend you on your user info page.
Doesn't this sound just a bit unreal, untrue and even twisted?
It sure seems like adding insult to injury... like stirring salt in the wound... Your friend has died, and then LJ takes another step further to break yet one more connection you share with someone for whom you still care. -_-
One (maybe) good thing, is that perhaps LJ gives them a permanent account some time after they have passed on. Patchy's friend is sort of a tragic urban legend, and I see that LJ gave them a permanent account after all this time. Hopefully my friend will never have to die here too.
As long as their family wants it that way, I guess. I hope.
Still, it doesn't quite make sense to me, and seems unnecessary, that they would implement a sort of technical disconnection like this... when someone you care about still lives on, in memory... :/
may you rest in peace, woozle.
*offers a final wing hug*.
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Date: 2005-04-14 03:09 pm (UTC)It was a shock, yeah ... even thinking back of the conversations we'd had over the past couple years and it's still surprising; I can't think of anything that suggested he was any more depressed than any person is. I didn't have any idea he needed help.
Dropping him from the friend-of page is really disturbing, particularly coming so quick after the news got out. I guess I see what they might intend it to mean, but it still doesn't feel right.