what they want what you wish

[ceagle]

There's really so much and so many peeps for whom I'm thankful.

And there's a lot of times I wish I could just say, "i luv u and i'm deeply grateful for your friendship"
Though I've learned that it's too deep just to put out there all the time.
People just don't want it.

Or there's even some people I'd go as far as to say, "u r my hero"
But people tend not to want to be heroes. It's a lot to live up to all the time.

It does make me sad (a bit) that I can't bubble and glow with gratitude so much more of the time. But I've tried it and it doesn't go over. And what's the point of making people uneasy or awkward, especially if that's not the intention. (rhetorical)

People just seem to want to have glimmers of gratitude, not fountains of fawning, even if it's sincere. Just say something or do something nice for them once in a while to let them know you acknowledge and care, I s'pect.

It's a struggle, but I've come to better terms with it in recent years. People don't really want to be put on a pedestal. At least the good ones don't.

...Just know that you are loved and appreciated.

Comments

[rocket-wolf.livejournal.com]

I always appreciate when someone tells me such, though admittedly I used to be kind of shy about it.

But yeah, for some, such things they do in life are just normal to them, so they don't always find it special, even if it is.
It is okay, as they just know. But, one just has to be careful not to say too much.

[bunny-plush.livejournal.com]

It does make me sad (a bit) that I can't bubble and glow with gratitude so much more of the time.

:o( I know I can seem resistant to genuine gratitude online because I get confused and afraid I’ll misinterpret it as something deeper. There was that incident 23 years ago... But please know that you are loved and appreciated as well!

[xolo.livejournal.com]

I've been on the verge of saying pretty much that a few times now, but never have.

[allaboutweather.livejournal.com]

I wanted to write a post about that on several occasions but I do appreciate all my LJ friends, who helped me get through several difficult times. *hugs* :)

[hastka.livejournal.com]

For what it's worth, I think "the good ones" are probably okay with occasional comments. :) I don't think it's really putting someone on a pedestal to suggest you appreciate something about them... but I know what you mean.

Sort of like how LJ has had dwindling attendance for several years, I think people these days tend to only like to hear short, shallow, generally positive things about each other. I guess that's fine but you don't get much of a support group or "relationship" that way.